Robert Greene’s Law #8: Make other people come to you – use bait if necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are in control. it is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.
Law #8 in my own words: Find your center, return to your center, act from your center.
Your center is like a dot in the middle of a circle. Your mind and body are in tune with each other when you are in it. If you ever find yourself drawn out of it, slow down, stop if you have to, and gently find your center again and again.